ON TRUST, BETRAYAL & FORGIVENESS
TRUST
“Is the belief in the good character of one party, presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises”.
BETRAYAL
“A form of deception or dismissal of prior presumptions, the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract (trust, or confidence) that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations”.
FORGIVENESS
“Is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment or anger against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution”.
(Definitions From Wikipedia)
TRUST…5 little letters…biiiiiiiiiig word. I have always considered myself to be an extremely Trusting person. If I meet someone that I think I can become friends with, they have my complete Trust from the get go because if I don’t think I can Trust them, no way they will enter my much closed circle of friends.
But to get something clear, I am TRUSTING…Not STUPID. I take a lot of pride in knowing I am a very smart woman and but a very intuitive one as well. There have been times were suspicion, not proof, has been enough to make me not trust someone anymore…and when I get that “feeling” that someone’s not being completely upfront with me, I am rarely (to not say never) wrong.
The way I see it, if you are an honest, sincere and truthful person, people won’t have reasons to doubt you. It’s not only to BE Trustworthy…But to ACT it as well.
When someone in my life has proven to be untrustworthy I can be very, very radical as to whether or not I will continue being friends with them. One thing I can’t stand is when someone wants to make me look like a fool, especially when that person has had nothing but respect from my part.
The thing is that it’s not easy to get over being betrayed by a person you love. When someone hurts you, lies to you and cheats on you, you are left with a feeling of despair and hopelessness that won’t fade just because you utter the words “I’m Sorry”. Sorry sometimes just doesn’t cut it.
Example: If you are in a relationship with someone, don’t give them reasons to doubt you…If YOU INSIST on doing something YOU KNOW is wrong at least have the brains to cover your tracks, you fucking idiot…that way, you won’t have to apologize later on for your stupidity.
When someone betrays the trust I have put in them I find it very hard to just “Forgive and Forget”…Regrettably, the human brain is not a Computer where you can just press “Delete” and be on your merry way. There are things that I just cannot forgive. If someone has not only betrayed my confidence but has also disrespected me greatly…I’m sorry…I can’t forgive that. Yeah, yeah…I’m familiar with the whole “nothing weighs more than a chip on your shoulder”, but that’s just how I am.
Bob Dylan said it best: "People rarely do what they believe in. They do what is convenient, and then repent"…When you do what is convenient for you, don’t be sorry for it…own your actions!
“Is the belief in the good character of one party, presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises”.
BETRAYAL
“A form of deception or dismissal of prior presumptions, the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract (trust, or confidence) that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations”.
FORGIVENESS
“Is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment or anger against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution”.
(Definitions From Wikipedia)
TRUST…5 little letters…biiiiiiiiiig word. I have always considered myself to be an extremely Trusting person. If I meet someone that I think I can become friends with, they have my complete Trust from the get go because if I don’t think I can Trust them, no way they will enter my much closed circle of friends.
But to get something clear, I am TRUSTING…Not STUPID. I take a lot of pride in knowing I am a very smart woman and but a very intuitive one as well. There have been times were suspicion, not proof, has been enough to make me not trust someone anymore…and when I get that “feeling” that someone’s not being completely upfront with me, I am rarely (to not say never) wrong.
The way I see it, if you are an honest, sincere and truthful person, people won’t have reasons to doubt you. It’s not only to BE Trustworthy…But to ACT it as well.
When someone in my life has proven to be untrustworthy I can be very, very radical as to whether or not I will continue being friends with them. One thing I can’t stand is when someone wants to make me look like a fool, especially when that person has had nothing but respect from my part.
The thing is that it’s not easy to get over being betrayed by a person you love. When someone hurts you, lies to you and cheats on you, you are left with a feeling of despair and hopelessness that won’t fade just because you utter the words “I’m Sorry”. Sorry sometimes just doesn’t cut it.
Example: If you are in a relationship with someone, don’t give them reasons to doubt you…If YOU INSIST on doing something YOU KNOW is wrong at least have the brains to cover your tracks, you fucking idiot…that way, you won’t have to apologize later on for your stupidity.
When someone betrays the trust I have put in them I find it very hard to just “Forgive and Forget”…Regrettably, the human brain is not a Computer where you can just press “Delete” and be on your merry way. There are things that I just cannot forgive. If someone has not only betrayed my confidence but has also disrespected me greatly…I’m sorry…I can’t forgive that. Yeah, yeah…I’m familiar with the whole “nothing weighs more than a chip on your shoulder”, but that’s just how I am.
Bob Dylan said it best: "People rarely do what they believe in. They do what is convenient, and then repent"…When you do what is convenient for you, don’t be sorry for it…own your actions!
A Reflection, Thought Or Observation By Libélula. Made On Friday, March 16, 2007
